Upcoming Father's Day
Five days left.
What do you get your father when he is in the nursing home with Dementia? In past years, he would receive a framed picture of me and him that would bring him to tears, golf balls, new shirt and tie for work, gift certificate for a nice dinner out with mom, a book by Dickens, a golfing outing with the fam.
But now, when he lays in a room that he shares with a stranger named Roger, watching the television flash before him, now what do I get him?
The framed picture would still be nice, however he doesn't even know who I am anymore. He has been calling me and everyone else by my mom's name. He doesn't do puzzles; he doesn't read, he doesn't look through the photo album that I made him a year ago.
This Father's day, the whole fam (brother, sister-in-law, nephew, niece, mom and T, B and I) will be going over to the "home" for church, lunch and then a fun game of softball. That ought to be real interesting with three children under the age of 2 1/2 and a demented father -- and I say that in a loving way. We'll take some pictures to remember the moment and hopefully all get along. Then we will go our separate ways and do something nice for T -- since it is his second Father's Day.
I am going shopping tonight to look for something for dad and T, hopefully I won't get too upset and just pick out some nice t-shirts for him to wear or something.
Man, I miss my dad.
What do you get your father when he is in the nursing home with Dementia? In past years, he would receive a framed picture of me and him that would bring him to tears, golf balls, new shirt and tie for work, gift certificate for a nice dinner out with mom, a book by Dickens, a golfing outing with the fam.
But now, when he lays in a room that he shares with a stranger named Roger, watching the television flash before him, now what do I get him?
The framed picture would still be nice, however he doesn't even know who I am anymore. He has been calling me and everyone else by my mom's name. He doesn't do puzzles; he doesn't read, he doesn't look through the photo album that I made him a year ago.
This Father's day, the whole fam (brother, sister-in-law, nephew, niece, mom and T, B and I) will be going over to the "home" for church, lunch and then a fun game of softball. That ought to be real interesting with three children under the age of 2 1/2 and a demented father -- and I say that in a loving way. We'll take some pictures to remember the moment and hopefully all get along. Then we will go our separate ways and do something nice for T -- since it is his second Father's Day.
I am going shopping tonight to look for something for dad and T, hopefully I won't get too upset and just pick out some nice t-shirts for him to wear or something.
Man, I miss my dad.
posted by Trisha at
3:22 PM
3 Comments:
How sad...I pray your memories of your dad "before" will be what you hold and pass down!
Found you through Big Trade-off, BTW.
Oh Trisha, this makes me sad. I miss your Dad too. Hope you are doing okay.
Wow, this entry made me so sad for you. It sounds like your relationship with your dad was a very good one before he started not to recognize you. I can't imagine how hard that must be. As selfish as it sounds, thank you for reminding me that I shouldn't take my relationship with my dad for granted.
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